Sri Bhagavan December 16, 2009 with Spain

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Q1: We have learned that relationship with the parents are very important. My experience tells me that that is the deeper meaning, but very rarely, you mention another kind of relationship that is very important to me: it is the relationship with our children. This relationship can be a source of suffering, sadness, and internal conflict. Can we know more about relationships with our children, especially when they are teenagers, ( ? ) to grow, and have a happier life together in family.

Bhagavan: When we talk about setting right relationships with one’s parents, what we really mean to communicate is, if you set right your relationship with your parents, all relationships are automatically set right. Every other relationship is based on this relationship. Not necessarily your biological mother or father, whoever brought you up when you were very young, they are the ones who are guiding you throughout life. That relationship only colors all other relationship. So if you are to have a very good relationship with your mom and dad, whether they are your biological parents, or whoever brought you up, it’s automatically set right with everybody else including your children. However, I would like to give you some tips regarding to taking care of children.

Now as far as a child is concerned, everybody must know some basic psychology as to the developments in a child’s life – how does a child think, feel and behave who is five years old, ten years old, fifteen, twenty – this knowledge everybody must have, because then a lot of mysteries grow out of that. The child is rebelling, not listening to you, not obeying you, not speaking to you; all of these are biologically controlled.

And if you understand that, half the problem is gone. The other thing is, while dealing with your child, you have to become a child. You have to put yourself in your child’s shoes. Think of your days when you were five years old, when you were ten years old, fifteen years old; you would be able to know how to deal with your child.

The other thing is, do not treat a child like a child, and put him down. Treat him as your equal. A child should not be thought of as somebody very small and insignificant. No. You have to treat him as your equal – That is very important. And the other thing is, there is a general rule in India, which has been formed in what we call the (?) stories, which has been the guiding principle in this country for a very long time, and it has helped millions of people across a few thousand years. That is until a child is young, treat him like a king. Until age six, treat him like a king, six to twelve, treat him like a prince, and beyond twelve, treat him as a friend. These are three guidelines, and we strictly follow this, and we have achieved very, very good results.

And more than all that, you must be a good parent, which means: there must not be conflict inside you. There must not be fear inside you. There must not be anxiety inside you. You must be whole. You must not be splintered inside. You must be whole, you must see yourself as you are, you must love yourself as you are, you must accept yourself as you are. This you can do to yourself, then whatever you do will be perfect with the child, and the child will dutifully respond. But if you are not all right inside, try as you might, you are only going through the motions. You are pretending, you’re acting – that is not going to get any results. The child will become what is inside you. You cannot fool a child. You have to transform yourself, and then see you could do wonders with the child.

That is the answer to the first question, now I go on to the second question.

Q2: What do you say to the deeksha givers that have passion for the mission of 2012, and want to share blessings, but still feel blocked about it?

Bhagavan: Yes, what I want to make clear, in this Skype programs, I want to help you overcome those blocks. Through meditation, through prayer, through blessings, and through teachings, I am going to systematically clear those blocks, give you more confidence in yourself, and confidence in the blessing. One of the things I would suggest is, to become a powerful blessing giver, you must know certain kinds of fasting, and I would recommend at least a two day fast in a month, which would make you into a powerful blessing giver, and some exercises like pranayama ( or some exercises which) would help you become a powerful blessing giver.

But more important than that, you must learn to talk to the Divine. As you are giving a blessing, you must feel for the person, know his problem, and then talk to the Divine about that. As you keep talking, you will find that the blessing becomes very, very powerful. And in fact sometimes you will even know what the problem is, without the other person talking to you. So this talking to the Divine is the most important thing. I will help you with that, and I am sure in six months time you could become powerful blessing givers, because by 2011 you must have real power in your hands. I’m helping you with it, don’t worry.

Q3: You have mentioned a lot of times, it is very important (???)

The question is, could we share the teachings… (unintelligible)

Bhagavan: You are perfectly ready to share whatever you have got. There are no controls, there are no restrictions, everything has been removed. You are totally free. You can share with anybody you like, do whatever you want to do. You’ve got complete freedom. The only thing we want from you is, help people. That’s all. 2012 is coming. We have to speed up now. Please help people. Whatever knowledge you have got, whatever processes you know, please start helping people! No restrictions.

Q4: We have a group of nearly 40 deeksha givers, and have decided to do the trainers course, to go to India. Our question is, is it possible for them to practice internal integrity also as a group?

Bhagavan: Yes, first of all, you are most welcome to come to India and we’ll train you to become excellent trainers. We’ll go all out and we’ll train you. We are waiting to receive you in India. That’s the answer to the first part. And regarding practice of inner intent as a group, that is the best way to do it! As I told earlier, this is not going to be achieved through individual effort. It’s only collectivity that is going to make it. So it will be ideal to have at least groups of 25, a 45 group is very, very good. More is good. So as groups, if you would work on inner integrity – in other words, you’d work on yourself, and you share it. The other works on himself and he shares it. Collectively you would move much, much fast – much, much faster. So, that’s the best thing to do. So please go ahead and do it as a group.

[Following this there was a three-minute meditation.]